#MothersDay 2014 (#Autism)

Had a very low-key Mother’s Day. I picked the kids up from their dad’s and my daughter asked if they could play outside. “But mommy, you go in and make yourself a chai. Then you can come out with us.” Well, if I must… 😉

Some lovely presents the kids made at school. This one from my daughter. It’s a “purse” that included a tea bag and some candies, which of course she kept asking if I wanted any…and can she have them too. 🙂

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My son’s class made a little dessert with a poem attached and Mother’s Day cards. Apparently while he was writing his, he kept asking “Mommy please”. The teachers would tell him that he’ll see me at pick up time…and the next thing they knew, he was writing “sad” in the middle of the card. Priceless!

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We spent a lot of the afternoon at the park, where my son decided the best thing to do was to just hang out in the grass beside me.

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And playing with dandelions…

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My daughter was running around too much, playing with new friends, to stay still for photos.

When we walked back home, my neighbour (who, if you Like me on Facebook, you’ll see he had his driveway replaced last week…which resulted in a hole in my basement wall…sigh) needed his driveway watered until the company came back today to seal everything in. My son loves “watering” the telephone pole in my neighbour’s front yard with the hoses (it’s just the bottom of it so no need to worry) so my neighbour asked if he wanted to “change the colour of the driveway” from almost white to grey. Both my kids jumped at the chance…and they were both soaking wet afterwards. The driveway got watered AND the kids did too.

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Happy kids = Happy Mommy!

Hope everyone had a great Mother’s Day!

Review of #StepMom Magazine – May Issue

StepMom May Issue

In the May issue of StepMom Magazine, the focus of this month’s magazine was Mother’s Day. My stepdaughter gave me a card she made herself for the second Mother’s Day after her dad and I got married…she made my year!

Lisa Bagshaw’s article entitled Kids: Now You Have Them. Now You Don’t! Six Tips to Help Child-Free Stepmoms Find Balance and Happiness speaks of finding balance when you are a childless stepmom. Before I was married, I didn’t understand why couples with children had to organize their weekends with so many activities for the kids. After I was married and a new stepmom but childless myself, I understood. Whether or not you are a stepmom, the tips are great, including focusing on creating balance for yourself first, and then focusing on creating balance within your relationship. Bagshaw mentions the idea of looking for “big picture balance”. It’s a great concept, especially on those weeks in the summertime when you are suddenly a fulltime stepmom, without any break. Go into the week knowing that you can just grab 5 minutes here and there, as your family’s schedule allows (personally, it’s the 2.5 mins it takes to make my chai daily as a SAHM, custodial mom and non-custodial stepmom).

The article Baptism by Barf is as good as the title implies. 😉

The very interesting question “My husband’s ex-wife is posting some very derogatory (and untrue) things about me on Facebook and Twit­ter. What should I do? Legally, is there anything I can do to stop her?” is asked in Legal Matters. When I first became a stepmom, there was no such thing as Facebook and Twitter, and I have blocked my ex-husband and I would expect that he has blocked me too. Thankfully though, my stepdaughter and I are “friends” on Facebook.

In Sticks & Stones & StepSiblings, stepsibling bullying is discussed. We didn’t have this issue in our family and I think it’s because of the almost 11 year age gap, plus my stepdaughter was super excited to have a set of twins as brother and sister.

Say What? More Stepmom Comebacks adds realistic answers to statements some stepchildren say such as “We don’t have to do this at my mom’s house”. Any responses given should also be adjusted to be age-appropriate of course. Statements you might receive from the child’s mother are also included, such as “My son/daughter told me you yelled at them. Why would you do that?”.

The Stepmom Retreat was announced in this issue as well: September 27 – 29, 2013 at the Embassy Suites Dallas – Love Field Hotel in Dallas, Texas. I’m impressed with the line up of speakers and it’s only $99US as early-bird pricing. Registration opens June 2nd.

Yet again, the recipe looks yummy: Cinco De Mayo Guacamole. The Real Stepmoms. Real Stories is of a stepmom to 3 and mom to 4. I love her philosophy on life “Every life is a story; make yours a best-seller!”

My favourite quotes from this month’s magazine is from Spring Cleaning Stepmom Style: Practical Advice for Throwing Away Negative Thoughts:

“Just like we need to clean out our physical closets every now and then, it is equally important (if not more so) to do a mental inventory of our thoughts and clean out the ones that clothe us in negativity and despair.”

And

“The reality for many stepmoms is that we have a lot of the responsibility but little of the authority.”

The June issue of StepMom Magazine will be available June 3rd. Subscribe!

Meghan was given a free one-year membership in exchange for reviews of StepMom Magazine.

My #MothersDay

I got to pick my kids up early from their dad’s because it’s Mother’s Day. I had already seen my son’s Mother’s Day card, which he made at IBI. His therapist had written the words, and he had placed the hearts. He also gave it to me that day by saying “Happy Mother’s Day”…my heart melted.

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But my daughter had brought her card and present home in a plastic bag with very strict instructions for me NOT to open it until Mother’s Day. She was really excited to come home to finally open and show it to me. A tear may have happened when she read the poem to me.

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I also bought myself something for Mother’s Day, not that it’s much of a surprise if you read my blog regularily:

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An extra special part of my Mother’s Day weekend though was when my stepdaughter came with my man and I to an SCA event (medieval re-enacting). She asked if she could come a few months ago and this weekend was the first one that was relatively nearby and on a weekend when she could come. She’s a huge history buff, so I wasn’t surprised that she asked. Because all three of us competed in different tournaments throughout the day (she and I did archery), we each received a carnation representing that we were fighting for eachother.

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Once I found the right medication combination to battle the massive migraine I got this afternoon because of the crazy weather we’re having, I have gone back to enjoying being a mom (instead of being passed out on the couch, waking only when they ask me for something), and loving how unique and wonderful each of my 3 kids are.

Happy #Mother’s Day!

Borrowed from Single Mothers Who have Children With Autism’s Facebook page:

THINGS MY MOTHER TAUGHT ME:

To Value a job well done: “If you’re going to kill eachother, do it outside, I just finished cleaning.”

All about time travel: “If you don’t straighten up, I’m going to knock you into the middle of next week!”

Logic: “Because I said so, that’s why.” (I’m so guilty of this one!)

Foresight: “Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you’re in an accident.”

Irony: “Keep crying and I’ll give you something to cry about.”

Osmosis: “Shut your mouth and eat your supper.”

Stamina: “You’ll sit there until all that spinach is gone.”

Weather: “This room of yours looks as if a tornado went through it.”

Hypocrisy: “If I told you once, I’ve told you a million times. Don’t exaggerate!”

Circle of Life: “I brought you into this world, and I can take you out.”

Behaviour Modification: “Stop acting like your father!” (I’ve been sssoooooo tempted to say this, sssooooo many times)

Thankfullness: “There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don’t have wonderful parents like you do.”

Anticipation: “Just wait until we get home.”

Receiving: “You are going to get it when you get home.”

Medical Science: “If you don’t stop crossing your eyes, they are going to freeze that way.”

How to become an adult: “If you don’t eat your vegetables, you’ll never grow up.”

Wisdom: “When you get to be my age, you’ll understand.” (I’ve used a version of this)

Justice: “One day, you’ll have kids and I hope they turn out just like you.”

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY

to all the moms, moms-to-be, moms only in your hearts, and “Mr. Moms”. You are all amazing!

 

Crazy busy weekend ahead, filled with #fun and #fundraising

This weekend is one of those weekends where there are so many things to do in town and not enough time to do it all, that I’ve had to be very selective with what the kids and I can actually attend. At first, it started out with two events: a mom’s group get together where we have all decided that we will use the excuse of Mother’s Day to get together and exchange cookies; and a birthday party. 

After talking it over with the kids this morning, we have decided to also go a book sale that will be raising money for a local arts organization (my daughter is hoping there will be comic books there for sale), and taking some old electronics to the local computer store for recycling (and the proceeds will be going to the local foodbank).

Childhood friends of mine are also in town, so they will be stopping by this weekend too (one of whom I haven’t seen since high school!).  We’re also hoping to go to the park at some point since the weather is beautiful, and perhaps the library.

The best thing about this weekend is that, besides the gas, ingredients to make the cookies and whatever we might buy at the book sale, it’s relatively inexpensive.  Who says fun needs to be expensive?  It’ll be filled with tons of fun and social time for the kids and I, and we’ll be helping our local community.

What are your plans for the weekend?