The power of friendships


I have been blessed with some amazing friends. Not only have they helped us move 3 times in as many years, they put up with our craziness, they learn and do everything they can to help me when my son and I are having bad days, and they even help us win a weighted blanket! Now we can add to that list that they love us enough to help us renovate! And boy did we renovate!

Some rooms only needed cleaning and painting but other rooms needed to be gutted and rebuilt. In the 7 weeks leading up to the kids moving in (a week after our stuff moved in), over a dozen friends helped us with sledgehammers, tools, muscles, skill, gardening, drywall, electrical, plumbing, building and rebuilding, painting, and just being supportive. Every time we tackled the outside “jungle” that had overtaken the backyard and the frontyard, our amazing new neighbours loaned us the appropriate tools (which at one point included a chainsaw!) and/or jumped right in to help us.

The house was very old and tired before renos started. As the weeks passed by, friends would say that it was coming back to life. I really believe that the more people who helped us brought more energy and love back into the house, which was desperately lacking.

So, I would like to “publicly” thank: AS, PP, RP, MS, SS, JR, NH, SN, JN, KT, BB, VR, M, DR, CP, PA, and JM.

Thank you for making our new house a real “home” that we will enjoy for many, many, many years to come!

Why I’ve been a silent blogger aka What we did this summer


The big news from this summer is that we moved back to the City from Small Town, Ontario. It’s the 3rd move the kids and I have done since their dad and I split and thankfully, this will be the last move for a very long time (decades hopefully!).

We basically had to gut the house we moved into, renovate lots and then move in. The original plan was to move on the Saturday of one of the full weeks the kids were at their dad’s over the summer so I would have the week to finish painting, unpacking and organizing. Of course, renos never go as scheduled/planned and when the kids moved in at the end of the week with their dad, our bathroom was fully function the day before, and supplier mess ups meant that we still didn’t have a kitchen. Well, the basics were there but nothing was functional because the supplier sent us the wrong countertop (a white one…who orders a white countertop??! One spaghetti dinner with a white countertop would stain and ruin it!). I had ordered a very cool brown-toned countertop called “Jamocha” (which I say with a really horrible weird accent every single time!) and at no point in time had been told that was a customized countertop so would cost extra. Along with the many other little problems from the supplier which all together meant a huge problem, they ended up giving us the customized countertop (which is supposed to take 6 – 8 weeks I might add) within 3 days.

Somehow I pulled off still feeding the kids with horrible fast food (our digestive systems weren’t happy!) and eating at my man’s place daily (he’s the best, especially since my kids are very picky eaters). Somehow I also pulled off “Back to School” without a functioning kitchen OR being fully unpacked.  I knew I had all the supplies, I just couldn’t find them!  I perfected a very intricate method of balancing everything on top of the dishwasher top (which is NOT flat in case you were wondering) to make and pack lunches.

Now, we’re at the “making everything pretty” stage with only 3 more rooms to paint. My daughter’s room is pink (she chose it…and it’s VERY pink!). My son’s room is blue (which he also chose). My room is green (my fav colour) and it makes me smile. The rest of the house is a nice warm beige/taupe colour that, as soon as my man saw it he declared that it was the same colour as my chai, which I actually hadn’t noticed until he pointed it out. It was so nice being able to choose all the paint colours myself, for the first time in my life.

Best of all, just tonight, I finally made pumpkin loaf (our family staple) so we’re finally “home”!


Move day is here!


The kids and I are leaving my smalltown hometown and moving back to the city tomorrow. We’re so excited, anxious, happy, sad…so many emotions all at once, but overall, we’re happy to be going back.


It’s been a VERY long road, getting the house we are moving into ready for us, including renos, kids are registered for school, and ensuring all the programs and therapies are in place for my son, including his IBI therapy continuing in a new setting, with different therapists.


The renos have been long and involved and, although I’m tired of it all right now, it’s been a HUGE learning curve for me and I’m VERY blessed to have such amazing friends who have made my renos one of their priorities to “get us back to the city” (to quote each of them!).  There has been demolitions, plumbing, electrical, permits, discussions with the City (ugh!), purchases, priming, painting (I got to choose my own paint colours for the first time in my life!) and there’s still more to go but the kids are at their dad’s for a week starting tonight so the majority will be finished by the time they move in next Friday.


I’ll have some trim painting to do in the winter, but other than that, the kids will be moving into a “pretty” home. My daughter has asked that I leave some painting for her though when she comes over for some one-on-one time with me during the week so I’ll leave some painting for her to do.


So wish us a relatively stress-free move!

30 Days About Me: Day 15 – Dream Home


 Day 15- Describe Your Dream Home or show us a picture

Assuming money was no object and I could design my own dream home, it would include:

  • Character home with wrap-around porch
  • Hardwood floors throughout
  • Big windows
  • Open-concept floorplan
  • High ceilings
  • Wood-burning fireplaces
  • Spa-like bathrooms
  • Luxurious fabrics
  • Earth-tone colour scheme throughout
  • Lots of greenery and space between house and neighbours
  • Dishwasher (I’ve never had one in my adult life, and yet I miss one. How is that possible?)
  • Bear claw bath tub
  • Fully developped Snoezelen room for my son
  • Separate play room for my kids with outdoor playstructure


And since this is a dream about a dream home, it would also include a cleaner, chef and on-call massage therapist. 😉


30 Days of Me: Day 30 – My Goals

Day 30 – Your goals for the next 30 days

Hmmm…I’ve always found it so difficult to write down goals.  Writing them down makes one accountable to achieve them.  Then to share them…?  That’s even tougher.  So, here goes…

  • Get a good routine down now that school and IBI are in full swing
  • Hang things up on the walls at home. A house doesn’t seem like a “home” without photos and decorations on the walls.
  • Get back into the habit of writing in my journal
  • Get to bed before 11pm at least 2 nights per week

Have you set any goals for October?  What are they?

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