#MomsMeTimeTO Reminded Us of the Importance of #MeTime

MomMeTimeTO

I had the honour of speaking at #MomsMeTimeTO last Friday, sharing my story of parenting 7yo boy/girl twins with special needs, and being part of my stepdaughter’s support network as well. The message for the conference was to remind moms that we need to take time for ourselves as well.

The message I hoped to get across was to remind moms to “put your oxygen mask on first”. We all get overwhelmed and stressed but it’s how you deal with that stress that is key to how well you can parent your children. I don’t pretend to have it all figured out…far from it, I am constantly working on balancing my stress levels. Keys to managing my stress levels include my weekly yoga class, journaling, meditating, knitting, meeting with my counsellor once a month, spending time with my man and friends, and gasp, disconnecting from social media. I don’t do each of these things daily, but I do know that when I’m feeling overwhelmed and don’t want to go out and interact with others, that’s the most important time for me to get out, and spend time with people. I’m an extrovert…I get my energy by spending time with people…I refill my emotional tank, so to speak.

Most of the attendees were fellow bloggers so it was kind of fun seeing everyone looking at their smart phones, or typing away on their laptops. Later that evening, I checked Twitter to find that people had been tweeting during my talk…and I was honoured by what they were saying!

Of course, with a room with lots of bloggers, the blogs are starting to be shared now so here are some of them:

Little Miss Kat & Co: “Fun weekend with #MomsMeTimeTO

SoberJulie: “A Weekend For Me – #MomsMeTimeTO

A Vision For Our Kids: “Defining Your Own Serenity

1 Heart, 1 Family: “Ten Things I Learned From #MomsMeTimeTO” <added April 9, 2013>

Ideally Speaking: “A Wonderful Weekend with #MomsMeTimeTO” <added April 12, 2013>

Best of all, I met some amazing ladies on the one day I was there…can’t wait to tweet, facebook and chat with each of them! :)

My #Blog – Year in Review

2012 year in review

Just wanted to take a moment to review my blog for 2012.

My 5 most popular posts were:

The posts I enjoyed writing the most:

My Facebook Page and Twitter account are the most popular ways for people to find my blog in 2012.

Thanks for reading my blog!

Google Found Me How?

Thought it was time again to share some of the crazy search terms that have resulted in people finding my blog.

  • Mom black pen – there’s a mom-specific black pen?! Marketing genius or just plain weird? Jury is out on this one.
  • Being single vs relationship – hope whomever is contemplating this option has figured out whether they want to stay in their relationship or not. Personally, I believe that if you are contemplating your relationship status, you shouldn’t be in a relationship. Just my opinion (and experience) though.
  • I’m not happy with my current relationship status – see my comment above
  • Set me free from his lies – LOL! Hunny, to Quote Dr. House “everyone lies”. All you can do is choose to put up with the lies, confront them, or move on.
  • Cartoons of people marrying their dog – ummm, what?! And, how did that search term bring you to my blog? For the record, I never married my dog.
  • I knew it was over when… – oh let me count the ways I could finish this statement… ;)
  • itruzie bridal – I don’t even know what this is, but how is the word “bridal” finding my blog? I didn’t even wear a bridal gown when I got married. I wore a bridesmaid dress that I had made in white. I just wasn’t a big puffy white dress kind of girl, nor could I validate spending thousands of dollars on a dress.
  • Breastfeeding older babies – not sure what the searcher refers to as “older babies” but I breastfed my twins until they were 1 year old…and frankly, I’m damn proud of it! They never developed the “latch” ability so I pumped for that year, and when month 11 came around, I was so sick of it but I was determined to achieve my goal of a year, and I did!
  • Marriage couple between 10 -14 years of difference – my ex-husband is 14 years older than me. It worked out “grrrrreat”. LOL!
  • My ex said his door is always open for me – mine said that too. I think they all do. They lie.
  • Can you fake Autism – ummm, what??!!!! Why would you want to? Seek professional mental help, please…asap.
  • Shemar Moore and single – is he??? Really??? He’s on my “list”. Sorry honey… ;)

My favs of all of them is:

  • Happy I’m single – Despite being in a relationship with a wonderful man…me too hunny!! No more marriage for me!
  • Autism Super Power – Hear! Hear!

 

Fill in the Blank Fridays – About Blogging

1.  I started my blog because I love writing, and I wanted to share about how our little family lives with Autism.

2.   One thing I love seeing on other blogs “real” people and families, dealing with the positive and challenging situations we all encounter.

3.  Something I love about blogging is being able to share our experiences, and also learn about other family dynamics.

4. A favorite blog post of mine is…hmmm, that’s a hard one to narrow it down to just one, so here are a few:

My most popular posts have been:

5. Something my friends in real life know about me that I’ve never before mentioned on my blog is that I knew my marriage was over 3 years before it actually ended.

 
6.  My new favorite blogs to read are:

Yup, I love blogs that are high in sarcasm!

7.  Some things I tend to avoid doing on my blog are being negative. Since the end of my marriage, I’ve tried to look at the positive side of every situation…but I’ll admit that some situations are easier than others. ;)

 

New Year’s Eve – Blog Reflection

Happy New Year’s Eve!

Thought I would reflect on the past year of my blog and share my fav posts. Would love to hear which one(s) are your fav too…from my blog AND yours!

Special Sunday with My Daughter

No Mosquitoes in my Underwear

“Scary Mommy” Reflections

Symptoms of a Meltdown (posted on MomNation.ca)

Losing my “Virginity”

On the Injured List

Proof of “Never Say Never”

Hypocrites Anonymous

ABCs of Me, Without Prompts

A Mom’s Wish List

My Son Started

Celebrity Hotness

How do you know about that?!

Best Disagreement EVER

21 Questions to Ask Your Kids

Don’t Judge Me Because…

You Might Be An Autism Parent If…(part 2)

Single Girl Empowerment

Thanks for reading!  Have a safe New Year’s Eve celebration…and designate a driver!

 

Google Found Me How?!

Every so often, I just NEED to share with you the Google search terms that result in people visiting my blog. Some are funny, and some are just plain “ewwww!”. Here are some searches that have resulted in people coming to my blog in the last month: 

Under the “Awww!” Category:

  • Hugs for growth – still amazes me how much money went into finding out that hugging is a good thing…and getting 14 hugs a day is optimal
  • Positive mommy quotes – LOVE that someone found my blog with this search term. I hope I helped!
  • Quotes on how to be single and happy – yay! Fake it until you make it, baby!
  • Freckles and redheads hot – why, thank you! For some reason though, I think this search might have searching for something other than a mommy blog…just sayin’.
  • Domesticated Mommy – ha! Have you fooled!
  • Happily divorced – just waiting to file the paperwork…but in my mind, I am happily divorced! 

Under the “Ummm…what?! Why did you find my blog with this search term” Category:

  • My son steals my daughters diaper – do I want to know if it was a clean or soiled diaper? Don’t think so.
  • Marriage – why on earth are you looking to me to learn anything about marriage? I know nothing…just ask my ex-husband. Wait. Please don’t.
  • Babies get high – Should I call Childrens’ Aid Society, or are you? And why on earth would that search term bring you to MY blog? I’m almost offended by this.  For the record, I do NOT support babies getting high!
  • Quotes on how to start a relationship – um, again…don’t ask me! I’m shocked (but happy!) my man is still around!
  • Don’t like your status – then don’t read it
  • Negative single parent quotes – who is researching this on Google? What are you planning on learning?
  • I am not your mother anymore – amen, sister!
  • I’m not the mothering type – I REALLY hope my kids never say this about me!
  • Vaginal myomectomy – ahhh…been there, done that…and am SSOOO glad!  Highly recommend it for anyone with a uterine fibroid.

Under the Ewwww! Category:

  • Mom son sexy stories – ummm…ewwww!

What I do find cool though, is when people actually search for different variations of “ImAMomToo” and find my blog – yay!

Tell Me About Yourself Award

So exciting! My first Bloggy award! Big thanks to Trisha from Momma T and Baby E for awarding the “Tell Me About Yourself Award” to myself and 14 other bloggers!  Please stop by her blog and follow…personally, I have found many writing prompts through her writing.

Here are the rules for receiving this award:

  • I must tell 7 things about myself 
  • I must pass it on to 15 other bloggers

7 Things About Me:

  1. I have never had a dishwasher in my grown up life, and yet I miss it – how is that possible? In fact, I have made it my “job” at my man’s house…to be in charge of the dishwasher loading and unloading.
  2. I love baking but am not a fan of cooking.
  3. I hate shopping…yup, a female who hates shopping…we do exist!
  4. I’m trying to figure out my life-plan…for when I grow up.
  5. My favourite colour is green.
  6. I can be stubborn and yet a doormat at the same time…what can I say? I’m complicated.
  7. I have “assigned” mugs for each type of tea I drink.

Now its time to pass the award on to 15 awesome blogs. Honestly, it’s so hard to choose! I find new awesome blogs every day, but here goes:

Scary Mommy – Somewhere to go when I completely need to escape from reality, and find out that I’m not alone in wanting to escape!

It’s Tracy Lynn! – I’m blessed with knowing Tracy in real life.  She is truly beautiful (both inside and out), and she’s got BALLS (“Balancing All Life’s Lovable Stages”)!

The Little Things We Do – Lauren writes “Fill in the Blanks Friday” every week.

Mama Kat’s Losin’ It – another great blog, both for sarcasm and for writing prompts

Julie Cole – Another wonderful mama whom I have the pleasure of knowing in real life, and a fellow Autism mama!

Domesticated Momma

Randomosity

Jade Louise Designs

Perils of Divorced Pauline

Just Me With…

Since My Divorce

Our A Plus Kids

Both Sides of the Coin

At Home Mum

La La Girls

Each blogger who receives this award is asked to write seven things about themselves and then pass the award onto 15 other bloggers.  To copy the award logo, right click, select copy, go to your blog post and click paste.

 

Meet Me On Monday – 11/14

 

Another writing prompt from Momma T and Baby E

1.  Does your family/friends know about your blog?

Anyone who is on my personal Facebook page, knows about my blog because I post it on there too.  I think the only person in my family who doesn’t know about it is my dad…because he’s refuses to be on Facebook.
2.  What is your favorite card game?

I have fond memories of playing Cribbage and Double Solitaire with my grandfather.  I also recently learnt how to play poker with some friends…and actually won the pot the first time we played!  My friends said I had a great poker place…easy to do when one has no idea what they are doing! ;)
3.  What do you wear to bed? 

PJ pants with tanktop, t-shirt, or long-sleeve t-shirt, depending on the time of year, and weather.
4.  What is your favorite kind of French Fry?

I really like making spicy French fries but honestly, I don’t make them often. McDonald’s is my fav otherwise.
5.  What is your usual bed time?

I would like to say that my usual bedtime is 10pm but it seems to be closer to midnight…sigh.

 

My Thankfuls

This is always a VERY busy weekend in my family because of two birthdays (mine and my moms on the same day!) plus (Canadian) Thanksgiving.  So, in the spirit of Thanksgiving, I wanted to share my “thankfuls” with everyone.  I’m thankful for:

  • my son and daughter
  • being able to write a factual letter (those who know me IRL will know what this means)
  • blogging, otherwise my brain would be in overload all the time!
  • Canada’s free healthcare – have no idea how I would have afforded all the services my son has had to help him live with Autism
  • my son starting IBI
  • feeling stronger and more supported than I have ever felt in my life

For fear of this sounding like an “acceptance speech”…I also want to thank some very dear people in my life:

  • K.G. – I have no idea what I would have done without you since the end of my marriage. The daily phone calls have reduced down to “only” emails or Facebook messages, with the occasional phone call, but you truly helped me through the toughest time in my life.
  • S.A.– My “sister from another mother”.  ‘Nuff said.
  • A.J. – My “big-bro type”, who is always there for me, whether just with a quick “boo”, teasing, or huge hugs.
  • A.S. – For being an amazing partner, without believing that you are, or that you are doing anything special (makes him even sexier!).
  • My mom – do I really need to explain anything here? She’s my mom…and the most AWESOME mom ever! (PS – If you want to know the title of the book she gave me for my birthday, leave your Twitter handle or email address in the Comments section below, or email me at imamomtoo.meghan(at)gmail(dot)com…it’s a good one and made me laugh…related to being a single mom!)

 What and who are you thankful for?