30 Days of Me: Day 30 – My Goals

Day 30 – Your goals for the next 30 days

Hmmm…I’ve always found it so difficult to write down goals.  Writing them down makes one accountable to achieve them.  Then to share them…?  That’s even tougher.  So, here goes…

• Get a good routine down now that school and IBI are in full swing
• Hang things up on the walls at home. A house doesn’t seem like a “home” without photos and decorations on the walls.
• Get back into the habit of writing in my journal
• Get to bed before 11pm at least 2 nights per week

Have you set any goals for October?  What are they?

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30 Days of Me: Day 29 – Dinner Party Guests

Day 29 – List 10 people, dead or alive, you would invite to dinner. Include the dinner menu.

Honestly, I’ve been dreading this post for the whole month!  I’m drawing a complete blank on this one.  Do I invite all hotties (it’s my party and I can drool if I want to)?  Intellectuals?  Academics?  Inspirational speakers?  Sports figures (wait, I don’t follow sports anymore)?  Business leaders?  Politicians?  Stay at home parents?  Parents of kids with special needs, or neurotypical kids?  People from all over the world, or only those in Canada?  All men or all women?  Dead or alive?

At the end of great reflection, I still can’t determine who I would invite BUT, I was toying with the idea of inviting my childhood-self and my future-self.  I would then be able to see again where I’ve come from, and where I’m going.  Might be nice to invite my childrens’ future-selves too; to see who they become, and be able to fully support them in that journey.

In regards to the menu, I’m not sure about that either, but if I’m inviting past and future selves and my kids’, I would lean towards old family favourites, which include my Great, Great Aunt Elsie’s casserole (a recipe she created and  actually has measurements in pounds!), and my infamous pumpkin loaf, that my kids have grown up on.

Who would you invite to your dinner party?

 

30 Days of Me: Day 28 – Something I miss

Day 28 – Something that you miss

Even though I love being with my kids full time (especially since I only stayed home for the first 3 months of the 1-year maternity leave we are blessed with in Canada because I didn’t have benefits), I miss working outside the home.  I miss having my own paycheque and the independence it gave me.

I also miss falling asleep beside someone, hearing their subtle sleep breathing/light snoring.  Thankfully, some nights I can hear my son’s sleep noises because our rooms are beside eachother.

What I don’t miss though, is the person I became in the last couple of years of my marriage.  Hope to never see her again.  Prefer who I am right now.

What do you miss?

 

30 Days of Me: Day 27 – Former problems

Day 27 – A problem you have or have had in the past

A problem I have is being too trusting of others. I want to believe that everyone wants to help others, and I was brought up to firmly believe in community and “doing unto others…”.  In the last couple of years, I have learnt to be trusting AND unfortunately, also being prepared for the worst.

At the other end of the spectrum, another problem I used to have is being too negative. It was great in my former career of being an event planner because I could immediately determine what risks were involved in any new event before even doing the walk-through.

After hearing a few too many times from many people that things always just seem to happen to me, I was finally receptive to hearing what a dear friend told me about how she turned her life and marriage around…she started listing what she was thankful every night and asking her Higher Power for guidance.  Sounded kind of strange (weird, hokey, New Age, and yet also really hard!) to me but I thought I would give it a try.  At first, all I could find to be thankful for was my kids and my friends who had helped stabilize me after the end of my marriage.  Soon, my “daily thankfuls” were expanding to the little things we were experiencing every day, to being able to list off many things that had happened each day.

Eventually I was asking Spirit for guidance, strength and help for others, and now I’m able to silently go through my “daily thankfuls” and even ask for help and guidance for myself and my life, and immediately fall asleep into a blissful sleep.  I notice I have strange dreams on nights when I fall asleep before I can go through my “daily thankfuls”.

What problems have been holding you back, and how did you resolve them?

 

30 Days of Me: Day 26 – If I had a Million Dollars…

 

Day 26 – If you had a million $ to spend, how would you spend it?

If I had a million dollars to spend, I would:

• pay off my debt and debt of family and close friends
• buy a house for us and pay all land taxes (is that possible?)
• set up education savings plans for my kids
• go back to university
• send my mom to university
• pay for additional supports for my son
• donate to Autism support services
• go on an amazing vacation
• hire a maid (tee hee!)
• savings! Boring, I know, but need to keep some for a rainy day
• some people would use the money to earn a degree from one of the online colleges.

What would you do with a million dollars?

 

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30 Days of Me: Day 25 – Fascinating People

Day 25 – Someone who fascinates you and why

Simply put, my kids fascinate me.

I’m fascinated by how curious my daughter is about the world and that she’s a great combination of a tom-boy who loves dresses and playing with Barbies.  Because I’m adopted, I’m also fascinated by how much she looks like me (never having seen familial resemblance before having kids), and how similar our personalities are to the other, whether that’s good or bad.  

I’m fascinated by how my son’s brain works, and how he views the world through Autism glasses.  It amazes me that the world is so chaotic for him, and yet he’s the happiest child I’ve ever met!

Who fascinates you?

 

30 Days of Me: Day 24 – Movie List

Day 24 – Your favourite movie and what it is about

I can’t narrow it down to only one.  Favs in my home collection include:

• X-Men
• Coyote Ugly
• The Thomas Crown Affair (with Pierce Brosnan and Rene Russo)
• Gone in 60 Seconds
• Serendipity

Others I really enjoy but aren’t in my home collection for some reason, are:

• The Bourne Trilogy
• Dirty Dancing (the original)

What is your favourite movie?

 

30 Days of Me: Day 23 – Celebrity Hotness

Day 23 – Post 5 pictures of famous people you find attractive

OMG! This was a REALLY fun post to do!  So much hotness, so little time…

Hugh Jackman

 

 

 

 

 

Shemar Moore (also see Day 21)

 

Joshua Jackson 

 

 

 

 

 

Will Smith

 

Matthew McConaughey

 

 

 

 

 

Plus, am going to include a couple girl-crushes too…

Kate Beckinsale

 

 

 

 

 

Salma Hyek

 

 

 

 

Who’s on your “freebie list” (a la “Friends”)?

 

30 Days of Me: Day 22 – How I’ve changed in last 2 years

Day 22 – How have you changed in the past 2 years

10 Biggest Causes of Stress

• Death of a spouse
• Divorce
• Marital separation
• Death of a close family member
• Jail term
• Major injury or illness
• Marriage
• Being fired from work
• Marital reconciliation
• Retirement

Just to name a few, in the last 2 years…

• my grandfather passed away
• my marriage ended
• stopped working outside the home
• we’ve moved twice
• I’ve been through my first surgery in my life
• my kids started at two new schools
• started dating
• started a new relationship
• my son is starting IBI therapy for Autism

So, of the 10 Biggest Causes of Stress, I have been through 5 of them.  I have been emotional/logical, strong/weak, sensitive/bitchy, calm/basket case, sad/happy, angry/ecstatic, etc.  It’s been an emotional time, full of highs and lows but it’s all made me stronger, more aware, and more willing to ask for help.  The best thing though that has resulted is knowing who my true friends are…I’m proud to call each and every one of them true friends.

How have you changed in the last 2 years?

 

30 Days of Me: Day 20 – Importance of Education

Day 20 – How important you think education is

I am fortunate to come from a highly educated family, and I was a straight A student as well.  Academics just “made sense” to me…in certain subjects anyway.   I also studied French Immersion, so graduated with an extra piece of paper stating I’m fluently bilingual.

I also recognize that school education is not the only type of education one can receive.  I also value street smarts.  The tough part is learning street smarts without having to go through the hard life that usually goes along with street smarts. 

I can’t say that I’m blessed with street smarts AND book smarts, but I am constantly learning and trying to discover new things.  My kids however, are my greatest teachers.  I hope that they learn how much I value them doing their best in school.  The actual grade isn’t important necessarily, and I don’t care if their best subject is Math or English, Science or Home Economics, as long as they are applying themselves and doing their best.

What was your favourite subject in school?  Was it the same as your best subject?

 

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