Day 29- Who has gotten you through the most?
My mom, KG, and my kids. I don’t know how I would have gotten through my separation without the support of my mom and KG, and HAVING to get out of bed to look after my kids. The local Womens’ Centre and my doctor’s office were also amazing resources to help me through.
I spent the first year after the end of my marriage purely in “survival mode”, and now that we are settled into my hometown and are coming up on two years of separation, I’m able to “breathe”, start focusing on my mental and spiritual well-being, and healing from the breakdown of my marriage. I still have to ensure we are fed, clean and clothed, but I’m also able to do daily reflections, journaling, just plain “being”, listing daily “thankfuls”, and asking Spirit for guidance.
Who has gotten you through the tough times?
Day 28- What’s in your purse, backpack or computer bag?
I rarely use a purse anymore so I have to pack it whenever I actually have to use one. In the diaper bag (it’s actually a one-strap backpack so my hands are always free) however, there are the following items at all times:
- Extra change of clothing for my son and my daughter
- My wallet
- The kids’ health cards
- Drinks for kids
What’s in your purse?
Day 27- Worst Habit
My worst habit is emotional eating. If I’m bored, lonely or stressed, out comes the food…usually Jalapeno Cheddar Doritos. With the end of my marriage, I should have bought stocks in Doritos! Not sure how I did it but in the first year after the end of marriage, I somehow LOST 20lbs while eating primarily Doritos and pizza…go figure. Start feeling better and more stronger, start eating healthier and gained the weight back so I’m back at a healthier weight for me again.
Thankfully, over time, I’ve discovered that I can substitute Doritos for carrots and spicy hummus. I still indulge in Doritos occasionally, but try to stick with carrots and spicy hummus…healthier and cheaper too.
What is your worst habit?
Day 25- Who is/are your best friends?
My BFF and I “split up” at the end of my marriage so that title obviously wasn’t as “earned” by her as I thought it was.
With the end of my marriage however, I found out who my true friends are, and who I can confide in the most. To respect their confidentiality (and so they can deny knowing me if they wish…LOL!), I’ll just list their initials:
I have no idea how I’ve made it through the last two years…good and bad times alike…without each of these wonderful people who have blessed my life in so many different ways.
Day 23- Something you love to watch on YouTube
I don’t watch YouTube often but when I do, it’s usually links I find on Twitter, Facebook or to learn/dissect choreography. I have posted some YouTube videos in previous posts here on my blog so here’s a chance to revisit videos I’ve liked recently:
Motivational Monday – Shedding Light
Motivational Monday – Imagine
30 Days About Me: Day 1 – Favourite Songs
What do you watch on YouTube?
Day 22- Some of Your Favourite Websites
The websites I frequent are:
WordPress (specifically my blog…tee hee…)
What are your favourite websites?
Day 21- A recipe you love
I have two recipes I love. Firstly, an old family recipe called “Elsie’s Casserole”. It was created by a distant relative and is so old that it actually has measurements in POUNDS of ground beef and sausage!
- 3lbs Lean ground beef
- 1lb Sausage, cut into bite size pieces
Brown together and sauté ½ cup chopped onion and ¼ cup tomato paste, and add:
- ¼ tsp pepper
- 2 tsp celery seed
- ¼ tsp oregano
- 1 tsp sugar
- 1 tbsp chili powder
- 1 tin consommé
- 1 clove chopped garlic
- 1 tsp dried parsley
- 1 tin mushrooms (use juice too)
Simmer for 15 mins, then add:
- 1lb cheddar cheese cut in cubes
- 1lb spaghetti (broken) cooked until tender
Put in casserole dishes and heat one casserole dish for 1 hour at 300˚. Freeze remainder.
Another recipe that has become a “staple” for the kids and I is Pumpkin Loaf. It’s the recipe our friends ask me to bring to potlucks…and the one I “surprise” everyone with, although I’m sure they all kinda figure it’s coming and as a result, I will NOT divulge the recipe…my new family secret.
Day 20- Something you wished you could forget
Without going into details, I really wish I could forget the last month of my marriage. It was a horrible month, followed by lots of insecurity about what future the kids and I would have BUT, as with any negative situation, you either learn from it or let it ruin your life. I decided to learn from it, move on and am stronger for it. I discovered my inner strength, and who my true friends are…some of whom I wasn’t expecting. Most importantly though, I learned how to ask for help, which is so difficult for people, especially moms.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t regret being married, because if I hadn’t been married, I wouldn’ have had my amazing kids. It’s just the last month that I wish I could forget.
Day 19- A talent/hobby of yours
I don’t have the time or energy to do much other than looking after my kids but, when I am able to take a class, I love:
I also took up knitting last year. I was dragged to a knitting class by a dear friend and, surprisingly, I really enjoyed it. I surprised my dad at Christmas with my first project: an afghan.
This is my dad and my daughter showing off the afghan.
What are your hobbies? Any secret talents?
Day 18- Wedding Talk
(share stories, photos, both, anything having to do with your wedding, the one you had or the one you dream of)
We had a small wedding – only 50 in attendance – at my parents’ farm. Family only for the ceremony, followed by afternoon tea with friends and family. The last guest left at 5pm, which was great for me because I was really sick, and was in bed within minutes.
At one point during the afternoon, my mom told me we had to cut the cake quickly because everyone was leaving. Then one of the guests went running through the house, excitedly saying “come on! We’re going to the barn!”. I chuckled, shook my head and thought to myself “such a bunch of city slickers”.
Everyone got along so well in the informal setting that no one noticed when my new husband, my dad and I left. We went to the local nursing home where my grandmother lived to have photos taken. She was far along in Alzheimer’s by then, but was very excited to see us all dressed up.
Some guests dressed up; others were casual. There wasn’t any pomp and circumstance. Tons of food and lots of merriment. It was a very good day!
The irony of this posting is that it’s actually on my wedding anniversary…yup, made it to 8 years. The fact that we’ve been separated for almost 2 years, brings it to 8 years because we aren’t legally divorced…yet.