Day 29- Who has gotten you through the most?
My mom, KG, and my kids. I don’t know how I would have gotten through my separation without the support of my mom and KG, and HAVING to get out of bed to look after my kids. The local Womens’ Centre and my doctor’s office were also amazing resources to help me through.
I spent the first year after the end of my marriage purely in “survival mode”, and now that we are settled into my hometown and are coming up on two years of separation, I’m able to “breathe”, start focusing on my mental and spiritual well-being, and healing from the breakdown of my marriage. I still have to ensure we are fed, clean and clothed, but I’m also able to do daily reflections, journaling, just plain “being”, listing daily “thankfuls”, and asking Spirit for guidance.
Who has gotten you through the tough times?
Day 28- What’s in your purse, backpack or computer bag?
I rarely use a purse anymore so I have to pack it whenever I actually have to use one. In the diaper bag (it’s actually a one-strap backpack so my hands are always free) however, there are the following items at all times:
- Extra change of clothing for my son and my daughter
- My wallet
- The kids’ health cards
- Drinks for kids
What’s in your purse?
Day 27- Worst Habit
My worst habit is emotional eating. If I’m bored, lonely or stressed, out comes the food…usually Jalapeno Cheddar Doritos. With the end of my marriage, I should have bought stocks in Doritos! Not sure how I did it but in the first year after the end of marriage, I somehow LOST 20lbs while eating primarily Doritos and pizza…go figure. Start feeling better and more stronger, start eating healthier and gained the weight back so I’m back at a healthier weight for me again.
Thankfully, over time, I’ve discovered that I can substitute Doritos for carrots and spicy hummus. I still indulge in Doritos occasionally, but try to stick with carrots and spicy hummus…healthier and cheaper too.
What is your worst habit?
Day 26- Favourite clothing store.
I’m not really a “shopping” kind of girl. I don’t find enjoyment in shopping, especially for clothing. I only go shopping when I need something. Those damn mirrors don’t reflect reality!
My favourite clothing store is Reitmans (hint, hint PR people at Reitmans!). Their tagline “Designed for real life” is so true! They actually fit my curves, AND the “tall” clothing is actually tall enough for me!
Having said that, I ONLY buy pants and jeans at Reitmans. Everything else, I get at Salvation Army…and my little secret is that I look for the Reitmans label on each item. It’s amazing what people give to the Salvation Army, sometimes only because it’s no longer the fashion for that season. I don’t keep up with fashion anyway so, if I like it, I buy it. Plus, if I don’t like it after a season or two, I don’t feel bad donating it back to the Salvation Army. Shoes are GREAT there too. Some of my most complimented shoes were from the Salvation Army and I only paid $5 – $10 for them! Who would have thought?
The “trick” though with buying second hand is to go back often and not to rush. Don’t go in when you have only 5mins as you won’t have time to try anything on and, because the items are second hand, you need to try it on. Someone else has washed them, shrunken them, broken them in, so you need to test it out first.
Now, if only I could find yoga pants that fit properly…anywhere…
Day 25- Who is/are your best friends?
My BFF and I “split up” at the end of my marriage so that title obviously wasn’t as “earned” by her as I thought it was.
With the end of my marriage however, I found out who my true friends are, and who I can confide in the most. To respect their confidentiality (and so they can deny knowing me if they wish…LOL!), I’ll just list their initials:
I have no idea how I’ve made it through the last two years…good and bad times alike…without each of these wonderful people who have blessed my life in so many different ways.
Day 24- Where Do You Live?
Tell us or show us about where you live
The kids and I moved back to the family hobby farm this summer, in Small Town, Ontario, Canada, which is also my hometown. 40 acres surround us, plus horses, cows, geese, chickens, dogs, and cats. Nice to be reconnecting with childhood friends, making new friends and learning what brought people to the area. It’s been interesting to see my hometown through my “parent eyes” rather than my “childhood eyes”.
My kids were born and grew up in a city so it’s been neat to see their wonder of things that are just normal in small towns…horse and buggies, buskers playing downtown on weekends, busy parks during the day where everyone knows eachother, etc. It’s been an adjustment in remembering that things close earlier here and the library isn’t always open, but we work through it.
Day 23- Something you love to watch on YouTube
I don’t watch YouTube often but when I do, it’s usually links I find on Twitter, Facebook or to learn/dissect choreography. I have posted some YouTube videos in previous posts here on my blog so here’s a chance to revisit videos I’ve liked recently:
Motivational Monday – Shedding Light
Motivational Monday – Imagine
30 Days About Me: Day 1 – Favourite Songs
What do you watch on YouTube?
Day 22- Some of Your Favourite Websites
The websites I frequent are:
WordPress (specifically my blog…tee hee…)
What are your favourite websites?
Day 21- A recipe you love
I have two recipes I love. Firstly, an old family recipe called “Elsie’s Casserole”. It was created by a distant relative and is so old that it actually has measurements in POUNDS of ground beef and sausage!
- 3lbs Lean ground beef
- 1lb Sausage, cut into bite size pieces
Brown together and sauté ½ cup chopped onion and ¼ cup tomato paste, and add:
- ¼ tsp pepper
- 2 tsp celery seed
- ¼ tsp oregano
- 1 tsp sugar
- 1 tbsp chili powder
- 1 tin consommé
- 1 clove chopped garlic
- 1 tsp dried parsley
- 1 tin mushrooms (use juice too)
Simmer for 15 mins, then add:
- 1lb cheddar cheese cut in cubes
- 1lb spaghetti (broken) cooked until tender
Put in casserole dishes and heat one casserole dish for 1 hour at 300˚. Freeze remainder.
Another recipe that has become a “staple” for the kids and I is Pumpkin Loaf. It’s the recipe our friends ask me to bring to potlucks…and the one I “surprise” everyone with, although I’m sure they all kinda figure it’s coming and as a result, I will NOT divulge the recipe…my new family secret.
Day 20- Something you wished you could forget
Without going into details, I really wish I could forget the last month of my marriage. It was a horrible month, followed by lots of insecurity about what future the kids and I would have BUT, as with any negative situation, you either learn from it or let it ruin your life. I decided to learn from it, move on and am stronger for it. I discovered my inner strength, and who my true friends are…some of whom I wasn’t expecting. Most importantly though, I learned how to ask for help, which is so difficult for people, especially moms.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t regret being married, because if I hadn’t been married, I wouldn’ have had my amazing kids. It’s just the last month that I wish I could forget.