Monthly Archives: April 2012

#Divorce to #Wedding, Within 24 Hours

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My former neighbour called me a couple weeks ago to let me know I had mail at my old apartment (how wonderful is he?). Finally had a chance to pick it up Friday night and was shocked to find a letter from my lawyer. Enclosed was my Divorce Order, dated March 21st, and that I could contest it within 31 days.

How excited was I to find out that not only my ex had filed for divorce (after bugging me for the last 2 years to file but I didn’t have the extra money to do it), but that the 31 days was up and I was legally divorced??!!!!!  My man has never seen me so excited! There may have been jumping around, screaming with glee, giddiness, laughing, hugging, and just plain going crazy. There may have been a few phone calls to some girlfriends. It may have also taken me 2 hours to calm down enough to actually sit down and eat dinner. But again, all of this may have happened. ;)

The small print I feel I should add here is that I don’t regret marrying my ex-husband because, without him, I wouldn’t have my wonderful children. I do regret how we treated eachother for the last 3 years of being together, and especially how the marriage ended, but all that is in the past now. Unfortunately, there isn’t an option for “Divorced and damn proud of it” on Facebook as a relationship status. I’ve never had so many “Likes” on a personal Facebook status. But I digress…

On Saturday, my man and I went to friends’ of his wedding. He was working (he’s a professional photographer) and also a guest; an interesting combination, but it was fun. I sat in the “audience” during the vows by myself as he was busy taking photos. It was a very surreal experience, watching two people declare their undying love, until the end of their days, while I was so excited to find out the day before that I was finally divorced (the first words out of my mouth that morning to my man may have been “I’m divorced!” instead of “good morning”, but again, that’s another may…).

I was and am happy for the couple, and hope that it will work out for them, but I’ll admit that I was watching their exchange of vows with a little bit of cynicism. I remember how I fully believed my ex-husband and I would be together forever, and I even proudly declared to my girlfriends in the beginning that I was so glad to have “gotten it right the first time”, especially since I was lucky wife number 3 for him (one of those was common-law, but it’s easier to describe as 3 wives).  Fast forward about 3 years into our marriage and things started falling apart, on a slow decline with some happy “blips” along the way for the next 2 years.

I’m sure there will be paperwork I have to sign as I haven’t signed anything yet but, at the end of the day, I’m finally divorced and celebration may be occurring soon…  :)

 

Fill in the Blank Friday – 04/20

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1.  Today is a great day because I just got some GREAT news…can tell yet though! ;)

2.   Tomorrow I will be attending a wedding with my man. Gotta let him see me wearing something other than my SAHM “uniform”. LOL!

3.  My favorite time of day is   just after my kids bedtime   because   I get to reflect upon the day, watch my kids sleeping, and listen to the quiet.

4. Sometimes you just have to    smile, nod, and THINK all the things you want to say. ;)

5. A song that I just can’t get enough of lately is   hmmm…not sure. No “earworms” lately, thankfully.

6. My favorite accessory is   a necklace, specifically a locket my mom gave me for my birthday, after my kids were born. It has two hearts on it, and my kids’ names and birthdate engraved on the back. My man even got pictures of my kids to include in the locket for my birthday last year, so now the locket is “complete”…finally!

7.  My favorite thing about this week was finding “the” dress to wear at a wedding my man and I are going to tomorrow.

 

How Things Have Changed in 6 Months (#Autism)

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A year ago, my son was considered to be “non-verbal”. Six months ago (around our move from Big City, Ontario to Small Town, Ontario, and especially him starting IBI), he started using words on a more regular basis, but it was only about 20 words, and it was still intermittent. Fast forward to two nights ago…

He regularly wakes up for 2 – 4 hours overnight for what I call his “Autism party” where he plays constantly for that time period. Since I’ve taken everything out of his room except for his bed, bedding, and his one stuffed animal (Mikey Mouse) that he takes everywhere, it amazes me that he can spend so long playing. In the morning, I am encountered by all the bedding taken off his bed and his mattress will be folded in half, or leaning up against a wall, in whatever shape he has decided to create. At first, I was amazed that he could do this, now it’s just “normal”.

Two nights ago, his “Autism party” consisted of him talking NON-STOP.  His favourite thing to say right now is “Oops. Almost. Try Again”, which is a statement from his favourite game on TVOKids.com.  After an hour or so of him saying this (and laughing his head off each time he said it), while moving everything around in his room, and me telling him to lie down and go back to sleep, I finally lost it and told him “stop talking, be quiet and go to sleep!”. Of course this didn’t work, but I chuckled a few minutes later when I realized the irony that I’ve gone from desperately WANTING to hear him talk, and now I was telling him to stop talking in such a short time period.

For the record, I want my little man to keep talking, more and more every day so I can learn from him…BUT, I would really appreciate if he would NOT do it during the wee hours of the morning. :)

 

Thankful Thursday – 04/19

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This week, I’m thankful for:

  • my son and daughter
  • not having a week full of appointments so I could nurse the headcold I had ;)
  • the relationship my kids are able to continue to develop with their older sister, despite their father and I splitting (same father, different mothers)
  • being able to chaperone my daughter’s class trip to the local library today

What are you thankful for this week?

 

Thankful Thursday – 04/12

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For the last two weeks, I’m thankful for:

  • my son and daughter
  • being able to publicly share our story of how Autism has affected our little family – thank you The Grand 92.9FM!
  • having some great groups of girlfriends
  • my daughter’s school fundraiser went awesome (I was co-chair so I had a higher interest in its success!)
  • the problems with my “sexy minivan” will (hopefully) be finished…for now :)
  • my man’s cooking ability…yum!!

What are you thankful for?

Google Found Me How?

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Thought it was time again to share some of the crazy search terms that have resulted in people finding my blog.

  • Mom black pen – there’s a mom-specific black pen?! Marketing genius or just plain weird? Jury is out on this one.
  • Being single vs relationship – hope whomever is contemplating this option has figured out whether they want to stay in their relationship or not. Personally, I believe that if you are contemplating your relationship status, you shouldn’t be in a relationship. Just my opinion (and experience) though.
  • I’m not happy with my current relationship status – see my comment above
  • Set me free from his lies – LOL! Hunny, to Quote Dr. House “everyone lies”. All you can do is choose to put up with the lies, confront them, or move on.
  • Cartoons of people marrying their dog – ummm, what?! And, how did that search term bring you to my blog? For the record, I never married my dog.
  • I knew it was over when… – oh let me count the ways I could finish this statement… ;)
  • itruzie bridal – I don’t even know what this is, but how is the word “bridal” finding my blog? I didn’t even wear a bridal gown when I got married. I wore a bridesmaid dress that I had made in white. I just wasn’t a big puffy white dress kind of girl, nor could I validate spending thousands of dollars on a dress.
  • Breastfeeding older babies – not sure what the searcher refers to as “older babies” but I breastfed my twins until they were 1 year old…and frankly, I’m damn proud of it! They never developed the “latch” ability so I pumped for that year, and when month 11 came around, I was so sick of it but I was determined to achieve my goal of a year, and I did!
  • Marriage couple between 10 -14 years of difference – my ex-husband is 14 years older than me. It worked out “grrrrreat”. LOL!
  • My ex said his door is always open for me – mine said that too. I think they all do. They lie.
  • Can you fake Autism – ummm, what??!!!! Why would you want to? Seek professional mental help, please…asap.
  • Shemar Moore and single – is he??? Really??? He’s on my “list”. Sorry honey… ;)

My favs of all of them is:

  • Happy I’m single – Despite being in a relationship with a wonderful man…me too hunny!! No more marriage for me!
  • Autism Super Power – Hear! Hear!